Basic Fucking Kindness

society, authority figures "i follow my grandmother's rule: its only a lie if they have a right to know"

self care " "fed is best" applies to us non-baby people too if your child will only eat chicken nuggets and yogurt: fed is best if the only meal you had time for was from a drive-thru: fed is best if a frozen pizza is all you could manage to cook in a day: fed is best fast food is still food convenience meals are still food a bowl of cereal or a PB&J is still food feeding ourselves (not to mention children!) can be difficult sometimes, so if you fed yourself today in some way: good job!"

"there is joy and nice things in this world, and if i cannot find one, i will make one. i fucking refuse to live in a bleak and dark, loveless world. i cant stop evil from existing and theres scarce little i can do to comfort the people wounded by it, but i was given hands for making things, and if small comforts are all im capable of, i will fucking make them."

activism "no offense but the internet gives you the most wrong and fucked up idea of helping people because people get mad if you dont care about disasters happening in 72 countries, meanwhile the people in real life that are doing the most good picked one VERY SPECIFIC thing to care about and care about it REALLY HARD"

anxiety, guilt, impostor syndrome "does anyone else get a strong sense of guilt and shame from receiving *positive* attention? yes! i took a seminar on shame once where the trainer told us that compliments often trigger shame in people who have experienced developmental trauma because compliments are discordant with our internal sense of self, causing us to feel as though we have committed deceit"

"advertisers must convince young women that they are in need of constant improvement without threatening young women's views of themselves as intelligent, self-directed, and equal. buzz words like "empowerment," self-determination," and "independence" are sprinkled liberally across their pages. but this seemingly progressive rhetoric is used to sell products and ideas that keep girls doing gender in appropriately feminine ways, leading them to reproduce, rather than challenge, gender hierarchies. an ad for a depilatory cream, for instance, tells girls that they are "unique, determined, and unstoppable," so they should not "settle... for a sandpaper skin." feminist demands for political and economic equality - and the refusal to settle for low-wages, violence, and second-class citizenship - morph into a refusal to settle for less than silky skin. pseudo-feminist language allows young women to believe that they can "empower" themselves at the checkout counter by buying the accountrements of traditional femininity"

feminism, pink capitalism, society, gender roles

growth "you're not too much you're outgrowing all the people and places that try to keep you the same" #art_credit_missing #help_wanted

anxiety, growth, socialization "accidently spent all my life making sure everyone around me feels comfortable, only to realize i never felt comfortable the whole time"

growth, socialization, abusers "you've changed we're supposed to" #art_credit_missing #help_wanted

"My therapist told me yesterday: some people (esp family) will choose to remember & recognize only the version of you that they held the most power over, no matter how long it's been or how much you've changed. And i cannot stop thinking about it."

growth, healing "changing every "i should have known better" to "i know better now". i will not judge past versions of me through the lens of who i am now."