Basic Fucking Kindness

self compassion "is it necessary to be the best at my job or to work harder than everyone else? do i really need to achieve huge things in order to make my time here worthwhile? or would it be okay to simply exist, be a good person, and experience life at my own pace?"

relationships, abuse "a relationship that is 10% abusive and 90% awesome, is abusive. if you're tempted to push back on that fact, realize you're in the business of defending what percentage of abuse is "acceptable" in a relationship"

growth, self compassion "what do you want to be when you grow up? in 25 so? you can still grow" {art by corvophobia}

self compassion " "someone else could do it better than me" not relevant babe, no one else is gonna do it. you cant do a mediocre job if you're the only one doing it technically the wright brothers created the worst airplanes in the world"

self compassion "i did it, quinn. i feel good now that im clean but sometimes i feel so paralyzed. i cant do the things i know i need to do kitty, its better to do things poorly or less often than not do them at all"

neurodivergency, autism "Sensory issues aren’t about fear. They're causing physical pain. So i see a lot of people (mostly not actually autistic people) talking about sensory Issues in terms of fear. They'll say things like "oh, he’s afraid of the vacuum." This, of course, isn’t correct. It's not that the person is afraid of the vacuum, it's that it's literally causing them pain. Like, literally. If you put an autistic person in an FMRI and expose them to one of their sensory issues you'll see their pain centres light up. So, why is this a problem? Well, most people view fear as something that can be overcome. So they’ll look down on people that let themselves be controlled by it. Which isn't good. The other thing is that the tried and tested way to overcome fear is through exposure therapy. However, if the thing is pain and not fear, all you're going to do is numb yourself from the pain. So, if you're autistic, remember that your sensory issues are part of how your brain physically works, and you can’t just will yourself out of them. If you're not autistic, don't dismiss people’s sensory issues so fiippantly. Rember it's literally causing them pain."

identity, growth, change "technically we're all, always LARPing, because the self is only a construct i want a new character then make one."

therapy, mental health, medical "therapists arent people you "pay to pretend to care about you". therapists are people you pay to teach you how to take care for yourself [...] you NEED therapy alongside pills"

lgbt, medical "one thing they dont tell you about top surgery: you're gonna have a hormone crash"

self compassion, trauma, mental health "does anyone else get a strong sense of guilt and shame from receiving *positive* attention? yes! i took a seminar on shame once where the trainer told us that compliments often trigger shame in people who have experienced developmental trauma because compliments are discordant with our internal sense of self, causing us to feel as though we have committed deceit"

socialization, lgbt "here's a hot freaking take guys but nobody gets to tell anybody else how they experience themselves. somebody has a gender you dont understand? tough. thats how stuff works sometimes. i dont understand french but the language still exists"

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