Basic Fucking Kindness

healing, growth, trauma "its okay if you thought you were over it but it hits you all over again. its okay to fall apart even after you thought you had it under control you are not weak. healing is messy. and there is no timeline for healing."

self compassion, trauma, guilt, abuse "self gaslighting sounds like: - «i am being too sensitive / needy / dramatic» - «others have it worse than me so i shouldn't feel this way» - «there must be something wrong with me. other people wont feel or think this way.» - «i should just get over it. i know they love me and didnt mean it like that.» - «this is all my fault. if i hadnt done ____ then they wouldnt have treated me this way.» "

society, invisible problems, chronic illness, venn diagram "not disabled enough right amount of disabled too disabled" #hard_to_transcribe

socialization, boundaries "friend oh psh its fine you do you. i trust your choices true friend inhale gurl."

relationships "idk who needs to hear this but trying to collect as many partners as you can with no regard for your ability to give enough time and energy to your current partners is not a healthy approach to polyamory"

self compassion "kurt vonnegut wrote: "when i was 15, i spent a month working on an archeological dig. i was talking to one of the archeologists one day during our lunch break and he asked those kind of "getting to know you" questions you ask young people: do you play sports? what is your favorite subject? and i told him, no i dont play any sports. i do theater, im in choir, i play the violin and piano, i used to take art classes. and he went wow. thats amazing! and i said, "ob no, but im not any good at any of them." and he said something then that i will never forget and which absolutely blew my mind because no one had ever said anything like it to me before: "i dont think being good at things is the point of doing them. i think you've got all these wonderful experiences with different skills, and that all theaches you things and makes you an interesting person, no matter how well you do them." "

society "calm down edgelords, the whole point of society is that its not survival of the fittest. literally the point is that we're leveraging our collective strenghts to lead to better outcomes for everyone. we've been doing it for a couple thousand years now the survival strategy our species dumped all its points in is cooperation and community"

socialization, relationships, self compassion "in therapy my therapist in i were talking about my own feelings of self worth in relationships. and she asked me to say qualities about myself that someone else would be attracted to. so i named some things like compassionate, empathetic, etc. and she said "you named things you can give someone. ways you can serve, rather than ways that you are" "

self compassion, rest " "all that matters is that u tried ur best" me *instantly flashes back to every moment i procrastinated and wasted* [...] you cant work at full throttle 100% of the time [...] time off isnt an indulgence, its a necessity"

healing, trauma, impostor syndrome "it just occurred to me that many people are actually afraid to heal because their entire identity is centered around the trauma they've experienced. they have no idea who they are outside of trauma & that unknown can be terrifying"

socialization, boundaries "the weeknd said "i dont accept apologies. you did what made you happy at the expense of my emotions and i understand it but i wont respect it" "

socialization, mental illness "one day i said out loud, "when we're apart i think you must hate me" "