Basic Fucking Kindness

socialization, adhd "neurotypicals will be like"

socialization "your shitty childhood isnt an excuse to be a shitty person. your shitty luck with relationships isnt an excuse to be a shitty person. your shitty experiences arent an excuse to be a shitty person. we ALL have our shit, and you can either let it define you, or you grow from it"

digital, socialization "if you're offline or away and i message you something (like a link to a meme or a picture or w/e) honestly just assume that im just leaving it there for when you get back and not expecting you to answer straight away. i dont need you to respond with "hey sorry, i wasnt at the computer!" or anything. [...] just because we have the ability to reply in real time does not mean we have the obligation"

socialization "you know, if you're thinking about sending someone a nice message and you're unsure because you're shy or whatever, just do it anyway. this world lacks so much kindness, and i see people all the time talking about why receiving a sweet message was the highlight of their day. if you have the ability to literally make someone's day by taking a moment to say a few nice words like, just do it"

autism, neurodivergency, labels, society, diagnosis "i am autistic but not diagnosed. can i ask for really small accomodations at work or school? [...] if you dont want to pursue an autism or adhd diagnosis and you have access to a doctor or therapist you can get them to write you a note attesting to a symptom of your neurodivergence (rather than naming the condition itself) and stating the need to be accommmodation"

neurodivergency, language "please stop saying "narcissistic" when you mean "self-centered" please stop saying "sociopathic" when you mean "callous" please stop saying "delusional" when you mean "ignorant" neurodivergent people didnt consent to be your metaphor for evil"

mental health, socialization, suicide "how to make someone who's suicidal feel loved" [everyone is welcome to leave their "personally, this helps/helped me a lot"s in the comments]

society, "being a girl and hitting puberty is so traumatic"

trauma, socialization "just so we're clear, it is okay to miss people you no longer want in your life"

lgbt, socialization "hi hellow fellow queer ppl lets fucking stop with this "cracking eggs" thing? with potential trans ppl? [...] build a nest"

self compassion, growth, healing "sometimes i wake up & have to remind myself: "there is nothing wrong with me. i have patterns to unlearn, new behaviors to embody & wounds to heal. but there is nothing wrong with the core of me & who i am. i am unlearning generations of harm and remembering love. it takes time." "

art "its so important to me that artists remember they can fuck around"