Basic Fucking Kindness

neurodivergency, labels, autism "its not aspergers, its autism" [reminder that this is to educate people, not to be weaponized against those who dont know. dont vilify everyone you hear saying asperger edit: interesting and important take on the comments section, thank you to the person who posted it]

trauma, parenting, abuse "abusers be like "i dont remember that happening" no shit, sherlock! for me it was a formative memory that forever changed the way my brain processes information and for you it was a FUCKING TUESDAY"

growth, healing, [probably some other tags] "when people talk about traveling to the past, they worry about radically changing the present by doing something small, but barely anyone in the present really thinks that they can radically change the future by doing something small"

sex, relationships, abuse, boundaries, consent "are you ok? do you wanna stop?"

insomnia, rest, anxiety "thank god for the mythbusters though because it used to be that whenever i knew i had insomnia i'd just kind of accept it and stay up doing whatever until my morning classes and spend the day feeling like shit but then they did an episode where they established that even just fucking lying there for a half hour, not even sleeping just laying there and not even for an hour, makes a significant difference and you'll feel way better"

sex, relationships, trauma, abuse when teenage girls have crushes on you its your job as an adult male to ignore it [...] this is the bare minimum of decent human behavior for ANY gender. if you are an adult and someone who is not an adult wants to have a relationship with you, its your duty to, at bare minimum, turn them away [...] having crushes on adults is a normal adolescent thing, but it doesnt mean they're ready for -or for that matter, want- an actual relationship with said adult. its a goddamn developmental phase for kids working out their sexuality, and treating it as a chance to get laid is fucking monstruous [...] teenagers often have crushes on older and/or unavailable people like celebrities precisely because psychologically/emotionally they're not ready to have a relationship. on a subconscious level, fantasizing about someone you know you cant be with allows you to experiment with your emotions in a safe way. and obviously an adult taking advantage of that will disrupt the entire thing"

self compassion, body, society, chronic illness, invisible problems "the body positivity movement needs to start moving hard into including disabled bodies and this is what i mean by that [...] unhealthy bodies deserve to be appreciated too [...] your body is what allows you to exist, [...] your body is what your loved ones see when they look at you and the love they feel for it as an extension of you makes it a good body"

extra post for the usa residents healthcare, legal advice "medical hack so, your doctor ordered a test or treatment and your insurance company denied it. that is a typical cost saving method. ok, here is what you do:"

self compassion "do yourself a favour: start a folder on your desktop - mine is called "you're doing a great job" - & when you get positive feedback, a compliment, etc, screenshot it & put it in there"

self compassion, body "your body is not a temple. temples can be destroyed and desecrated. your body is a forest [...] you will grow back, over and over, no matter how badly you are devastated"

socialization, relationships "i personally wanna see less 'you are not a burden/its not work to love you' and more 'you are worth the work it takes to love you' [...] pretending love isnt work will never make people like me feel less guilty for accepting love. we need to talk about it so people dont feel bad for having boundaries and not always being up to do the work. we need to accept it so we can properly appreciate what others do for us and what we're doing for them"

self compassion, body "repeat after me: [...] sometimes you gotta take care of yourself the way you care for a grumpy pet 'yeah yeah meow hiss we're still going to the vet' "