Basic Fucking Kindness

self compassion, socialization, society "you should really stop wasting your time like this do something"

unscheduled reminder that many if not most lgbt+ people go trough months or years of confusion and uncertainty without being sure what they are ("i know/strongly suspect that im not cishet but what am i exactly? what am i comfortable with?", etc) and that nobody is a failure nor a faker if they are unsure and/or confused. if you feel like an intruder in a space that you perceive as undeserved, remember that the Q in lgbtiq stands for "questioning" as well, not only for queer if you feel pressured to find a label to introduce yourself with, be careful not to force yourself into things that you are not comfortable with just because you feel like you owe anyone some explanation if you cant pinpoint what exact labels apply to you, there is nothing wrong with that. there are many people who in the end, decide that no label applies to them, and it is perfectly valid to decide that. everybody's journey is unique, dont try to rush it just to imitate others' journeys. if you dont have any label for yourself yet, it is okay. if you are unsure if some label applies to you, its okay. if you feel more comfortable while thinking of yourself as lgbt+, but you cant identify with any letter, go with q. its okay.

neurodivergency, adhd, autism, body "this is a reminder for autistic people who dont feel hunger or thirst signals to eat and drink something also reminder for autistic people who dont feel pain and cold signals to do a quick evaluation on if you're uncomfortable"

self compassion, mental health, chronic illness, invisible problems "your bare minimum isnt actually that bare or minimum"

socialization "im learning to understand and accept that sometimes people just want to vent, and dont require my input or opinion about what bothers them [...] sometimes there's a third option, you just listen. someone having a bad day isnt a task i must pick up"

self compassion, growth "relapsing is part of recovery & healing you have not failed"

lgbt, socialization, minorities " "we can agree to disagree on trans issues" No, we really cant because disagreeing with the validity of someone's identity - and the rights and services they deserve or dont deserve because of it - is discrimination, not disagreement"

socialization, discrimination "i hate that when the discussion turns to helping people, there's always someone who takes the most ungenerous, contemptible stand towards others. if by helping legitimately needy people, i accidentally help some lazy people, so what? how is that worse than helping no one?"

self compassion, mental health "if courage isnt the absence of fear but doing the right thing regardless of it, maybe confidence isnt the absence of insecurity but knowing you have real worth despite it"

lgbt, discrimination, socialization " "but the children will be confused!" i actually would have been a lot less confused if someone had just told me"

socialization, boundaries, mental health "maybe i dont have to be so though maybe i can be vulnerable sometimes"

body, society "every time i hate my body, i remember that there are millions of old rich white men who benefit from my self hatred"