Basic Fucking Kindness

anxiety, parenting, socialization "the worst trick a childhood anxiety disorder pulls is, you spend your early years being applauded for being so much more mature than your peers, because you arent disruptive, you dont want any kind of attention, you dont express yourself [...] but you're actually way behind your peers in normal social development [...] convenient children do not equal healthy children"

sexuality, nsfw "orgasms are great but they can make sex goal oriented & create unnecessary pressure"

the first post of today, in an hour from now (12:01), will be arguably nsfw. there wont be any explicit content (as it is only text), but consider not opening it in front of people who you dont feel like getting questions from

lgbt "idk what young transmasc needs to hear this but you're allowed to transition to look like a feminine man"

lgbt, self compassion, impostor syndrome, labels "idk what ace person needs to hear this but having intrusive thoughts about sexual things does not mean you are faking it ir "secretely allosexual". intrusive thoughts are intrusive thoughts because they are stressful and unwanted. allosexual people arent tortured by their normal sexual thoughts" ["ace" being short for "asexual". can also be applied to things other than sexualities]

socialization, feelings, relationships, parenting, "just because your feelings are valid, this doesnt mean that every possible reaction to them is"

self compassion "forgive yourself for what you did in survival mode"

self compassion, mental health " "diamonds are formed under pressure" and bread dough rises when you let it rest [...] the same boiling water that softens the potato will harden the egg"

socialization, relationships "i think we subconsciously undervalue platonic love and intimacy from our friends bc society puts so much emphasis on finding and having romantic love. like idk about you but i wouldnt be shit without the unending love and support of my friends"

growth, healing "you've changed. i'd hope so."

growth, socialization "how to forgive forgiveness is taking the knife out of your back and not using it to hurt anyone else"

parenting "when people say "you were such a good kid growing up" it means "you expressed no needs and did as you were told" "