Basic Fucking Kindness

boundaries, socialization "its okay to outgrow things and people that keep you stuck"

binding, lgbt "also dont ever use ace bandage for binding, its designed to restrict blood flow. and your chest is kinda where you always want the most bloodflow" [everybody with experience/tips to give is welcome to leave a message in this post]

boundaries, socialization, body "do i have to hug them? a handy guide"

and an extra post today since why not

unscheduled post: about 3 months ago, some users in this channel manifested discomfort with sharing this space with a certain other user, and thus the latter was removed from the discussion group. since then, the removed user has apologized to at least some of the users here who requested their removal to start with, and at least some have forgiven them and said that they would be okay with they being able to post in the discussion of the channel again if somebody here still has complaints and manifest discomfort, they wont be allowed to come back. if nobody has problems/discomfort, they will be able to use the comments section again edit: multiple users manifested discomfort and thus they wont be allowed back in this chat, case closed kind reminder that this channel is not the place to discuss what happened in other chats, nor to throw names, and that this is a simple question that nobody has to answer to with a long explanation

parenting "i hate that trope of kids giving their favorite stuffed animal to a younger child as a sign of compassion and coming of age, as if this is something that should be expected of kids as they grow up [...] when parents are forcing you to "grow up" by tearing the only comfort in the world from you, they could actually be messing you up big time [...] anything it takes for you to feel okay and function in the world is okay. the world is literally on fire, and whatever gets you trough without being self destructive or self sabotaging is a good thing. who gives a shit if you're 30 and sleep with a stuffed animal?"

growth, self compassion "i guess it makes sense that people with an all or nothing viewpoint will see incremental change, no matter how significant, as no change at all [...] the thing with accepting incremental change is understanding that it doesnt stop after one increment"

body, self compassion "today i asked my body what she needed, which is a big deal considering my journey of Not Really Asking That Much"

self compassion, boundaries, socialization "the ocean does not apologize for its depth and the mountains do not seek forgiveness for the space they take and so, neither shall i"

self compassion, mental health, invisible problems, depression, suicide "it is completely acceptable to stay alive for tiny reasons. because you want to hear your favourite song one more time. because your dog will miss you if you leave. because the moon is just too pretty to never see again. because you have not seen the next season of a really good tv show. because you want to see the christmas lights this year. if you are alive, you are doing enough. if you are surviving, i am proud of you"

impostor syndrome "me: im scared i might secretely be an awful person and im just fooling everyone into thinking im good therapist: the fact that you care so deeply about being a bad person is proof that you're actually good. bad people dont mind being bad"

[hard to tag] "resilience is not sustainable we are not supposed to endure life we are supposed to live it"