Basic Fucking Kindness

self compassion "your future self is hating you for the poor decisions you're making today [...] your future self is looking back on your past self with mingled love and sorrow and compassion, because they know how hard you were trying and how difficult the going was. your future self wishes they could spare you the pain of hating yourself when they know that you are trying the best you can. your future self isnt mad. your future self forgives you and would like you to take as good care of yourself as you can"

socialization, microinjuries, invisible problems, discrimination "if you smell the same smell too often, if you taste the same food every day, it irritates you. [...] the pointless remark you just said isnt the first drop. it might be the 2000th drop, or the 3000th drop, or the 10000th drop. even if it means absolutely nothing to you, and you thought nothing when you said it, people being irate about the racist, classist, sexist or transphobic thing you just said is not irrational. it might be your first time saying such shit, but it is not their first time hearing it"

depression, self compassion "self care for when you hit rock bottom"

depression, self compassion "self care for when you hit rock bottom"

kindness "honestly that "it costs 0 dollars to be kind" bullshit is bullshit. it does cost things to be kind. it costs time. it costs energy. and it isnt always easy and it isnt always natural. it costs so much to be kind, sometimes. but thats the whole point."

for reciprocity's sake, and because it does no harm to do it, shot out to https://t.me/heartwarmingmemes not focused on educating, but more focused on making their subscribers feel better whenever the chance arrives. for those who might need extra smiles every now and then

gaslight, definitions, words "gaslighting is a form of mental abuse in which information is twisted or spin, selectively omitted to favor the abuser, or false information is presented with the intent of making victims doubt their own memory, perception, and sanity"

abuse, trauma "growing up in an abusive household is a fucking trip dude...... if you've never had someone angrily wash a dish at you or fold a sock in your direction then how are you gonna understand why i get nervous when you quietly do the laundry, or why i ask "are you mad at me?" when you set the bag of groceries down too hard? [...] abused kids speak a language you cant learn" [kindness is not just actions; kindness is also understanding]

open collective "challenge": say something nice about someone else in the comments (be mindful of triggering stuff), or, if you feel extra daring, try to say something nice about yourself this message will never be "too old to reply to", you are invited…

unscheduled reminder that it is okay to feel sad after making the right decision

trauma, abuse, socialization "abused children have been taught that love can coexist with abuse. this shapes our perceptions of love."

self compassion, mental health, growth, healing "this is progress this is also progress and so is this"