Basic Fucking Kindness

afab, misogyny, society, invisible problems, menstruation "on periods: lets put this shit to bed right now: women dont lose their minds when they have period-related irritability. it doesnt lower their ability to reason; it lowers their patience and, hence, tolerance for bullshit. if an issue comes up a lot during "that time of the month", that doesnt mean she only cares about it once a month; it means she's bothered by it all the time and lacks the capacity, once a month, to shove it down and bury it beneath six gulps of willful silence" {shakesville: feminism 101}

politics, society, fascism, free speech "public service announcement: the right to free speech means the government cant arrest you for what you say it doesnt mean that anyone else has to listen to your bullshit, or host you while you say it the 1st amendment doesnt shield you from criticism or consequences if you're yelled at, boycotted, have your show canceled, or get get banned from an internet community, your free speech rights arent being violated its just that the people listening think you're an asshole and they're showing you the door" {xkcd, 2014}

additionally, the majority of the post history of this channel has been transcribed now, and maybe about a quarter of the artists have been credited; but there are still posts that evaded the sieve if anyone wants to contribute, the two main ways currently are: -to reply #pending_transcription directly to the post, in its comments -to locate the original artists in graphical posts, and reply to the post with their names, preferably but not necessarily with links the latter is an arduous and demanding task to do for admin alone, especially with admin's technological setup, and any amount of help would go a long way :)

unscheduled post: request for feedback on transcription, from those who make use of them. does it make a real difference to type "don't" instead of "dont" for screen readers? would it help to use «» instead of ""? anything else that is easier to deal with as a sender than as a receiver? additionally, if there is a strong interest in using more formatting (E.G., embolden the first letter of every sentence), the possibility may be explored this post has no expiration date and anyone can reply at any point, but please try to keep all the discussion to actual, real usecases, and dont chip in to add theories and fantasies born from maybes. emboldening letters only helps the reader if the reader is reading the post through the transcription and not the image. feel free to provide illustrative links (especially for things like the aforementioned text formatting)

digital, emotional self harm, abuse, self compassion, rest "you do not need to burn out to prove you care"

boundaries, abuse "but there is something that happens when you are told you are Too Much you begin to ask everyone, how small would you like me?" {mary lambert, shame is an ocean i swim across, "you are with the wrong person"}

boundaries, relationships, socialization "its okay to need space from people you love"

self compassion "emotional regulation requires energy when you're physically tired, emotional regulation is physiologically harder to achieve so if you've used all your physical spoons and you start crying because you dropped a pen, remember its because your cells literally dont have enough ATP to coordinate the neurological processes that control your emotions. give yourself grace and rest and probably a snack"

growth, healing, shame "maturing is realizing you were toxic too if you dont look back and cringe at your actions you probably havent been growing"

anxiety, impostor syndrome, morals, activism, socializing "am i still a good person if helping others also benefits me? hey, man its me, the universe be kind. i dont care why"

socializing, anxiety, activism, bad praxis "waiting for people to fuck up so that you can cancel them, gatekeeping, communities self-policing to the point of self-destruction, debating each other's validity, communities infighting over terminology, fighting over the Best way to exist, trying to define what a Bad Community Member is/does, vilifying those people besties i think we fucked up and internalized the surveillance state or the omni-present judgement of god or purity culture or perhaps just maybe all 3 kill the cop inside your head"

food, dieting, parenting, medical "my dad who wants the brussels sprouts to be healthy me who wants the brussels sprouts to fuck like hell food fun facts for dad types!!! ·adding butter or cheese or salt or whatever to your veggies so that you like them doesnt change the nutritional content you get from said veggies ·additional calories eaten dont negate the healthy benefits of food. and, stay with me here, low calorie foods are not more morally pure than high calorie foods ·if making a food more palatable by adding butter (or whatever) is the make-or-break for someone to actually eat the vegetable, then the brussel sprouts with butter are FUCKING HEALTHIER for you than the brusel sprouts you dont eat. a salad with ranch dressing is healthier for you than the dry greens you dont eat. a sandwitch with cheese and mayo is more healthy than the plain sandwich you dont eat. the strawberry with whipped cream is more healthy than the strawberry you dont eat."