Basic Fucking Kindness

self compassion, socialization "there are people who like me people enjoy listening to what i have to say and they enjoy spending time with me" {art by melonami}

socialization "May you never be the reason why someone who loves to sing, doesn't anymore. Or why someone who dressed so differently now wears standard clothing. Or why someone who always spoke of their dreams so wildly is now silent about them. May you never be the reason of someone giving up on a part of them because you were demotivating, non appreciative or even worse, sarcastic about it."

lgbt, body, binding "today my doctor taught me something very important about chest binding binding with the nipples pointing down can seriously damage the tissue and skin, and negatively affect the result of a future top surgery pressing the breasts towards you is a much safer way of binding"

body, mental health, hospitals, chronic illness "doctor: dont confuse your google search with my 6y at medical school Patient: Don’t confuse the 1-hour lecture you had on my condition with my 20y of living with it."

mental health, socialization, invisible problems "Physical illness : "Get well soon” "You are so brave” *Brings you flowers* Mental illness : "Just get over it" “Think positive" “You need to try harder” *Silence* "

body, chronic illness, rest, invisible problems "able bodied peeps will never truly understand the joy of finally lying the fuck down"

mental health, guilt, rest "having fun is not a waste of time" #art_credit_missing

abuse, trauma, mental health "abuse/trauma doesnt have to be sexual or physical to be valid. there are genuine and real psychological consequences to manipulative, emotional and other forms of abuse. you are not crazy. your feelings are valid."

lgbt, body, intersex "1.7% of people are intersex, 2% have green eyes, and 1.5 percent are redheads, but yeah red is a natural hair color, green is a natural eye color, and being intersex is a 'deformity’ Keep pretending gender isn't a social construct 0.0006% of people in the world live in Ireland and we all agree that People Live In Ireland."

society, dark humor, misogyny, machism "it was just a joke! why do you care? sexual violence exists in a pyramid [stratum 1 / highest layer] murder [stratum 2] rape, sexual assault, physical emotional & financial abuse [stratum 3] harassment threats & verbal abuse [stratum 4] traditional gender roles. glass ceiling. rigid gender-based stereotypes [stratum 5 / bottom layer] sexist/homophobic/transphobic jokes. problematic language. objectification"

self compassion, mental health, growth, healing "doing your best might look different each day"

digital, socialization, mental health "if you're offline or away and i message you something (like a link to a meme or a picture or w/e) honestly just assume that i'm just leaving it there for when you get back and notexpecting you to answer straight away. i don't need you to respond with “hey, sorry, i wasn't at the computer!” or anything. i was leaving u a gift for later. This also applies if you're online and just don’t want to or have the energy to deal with humans in the moment. Just because we have the ability to reply in real time does not mean we have the obligation."