Basic Fucking Kindness

mental health, invisible problems, impostor syndrome " -do you ever worry that you're making stuff up for attention? +when it comes to mental health? nope! -why not? +i have two super good reasons: +one you cant "fake things accidentally" +it has to be a conscious choice +i know i didnt choose to -whats the other reason? +how many people have you told about your symptoms? -like, nobody +exactly! in order to do something for "attention", you have to actually tell people!"

language, self compassion, mental health "dont speak negatively about yourself, even as a joke. Your body doesn’t know the difference. Words are energy and cast spells, that's why it's called spelling. Change the way you speak about yourself and you can change your life. What you're not changing, you're also choosing."

self compassion, internalized thoughts, body "every time i hate my body i remember that there are millions of old rich white men who benefit from my self hatred and if there's one thing i hate, its old rich white men so i snap out of that shit instantly cos i aint EVER giving them the satisfaction"

lgbt, identities, language, socialization "(gender binary) he's hideous. he makes me sick, just looking at him those gender roles, that femininity, those gendered pronouns and that stupid masculinity! eh hem oh... but it looks good on you, binary trans people!"

self compassion, invisible problems "just because you carry it well doesnt mean it isnt heavy"

boundaries, socializing, mental health "i have a friend who always asks me before venting/sharing concerns if i "have the mental space for it right now" & i gotta say... that willingness to respect boundaries and not demand a loved one dedicate emotional energy they may not have that day... thats the healthiest shit ever"

lgbt, top surgery, money, self compassion, trans "what am i waiting for?" #pending_transcription

mental health, invisible problems, family "a child with an undiagnosed mental illness: i think i need help. i struggle with things nobody else seems to be struggling with a parent who never got diagnosed for the exact same mental illness: Oh sweetie. EVERYONE struggles with that :)"

self defense, evictions, activism, sonic "i keep telling knuckles the echidna to stop punching in my door! what a headache! heare are some basic tips to reinforcing a door so knuckles will stop "replacing the screws in your door latch with 3 inch decking screws is easy and your landlord wont even notice a reinforcement lock is usually under 20 bucks and if installed correctly will add about 800 libs of resistance to your door if knuckles is really determined you could also opt for one of these security bars for doors, which is also about $20"

self compassion, mental health, rest "friendly reminder that doing your best does not mean working yourself to the point of mental breakdown"

society, colonialism, imposition, behaviour "re: eye contact: i have a lot of Thoughts about the expectation of enforced eye contact in Western culture and its connections with colonialism. It starts with the fact that eye contact being associated with honesty and virtue is pretty much chiefly a Western cultural idea. In many other cultures, its a sign of disrespect or defiance. It could get you in a fight, if you do it with the wrong person. In those same cultures, avoiding eye contact is a sign of respect for one's superiors. However, in Western culture, its a sign of disrespect, dishonesty, and cowardice. This means that from a colonizer's view, people in these cultures could be seen as morally inferior. What we have now is a pretext for forcing changes in behavior upon the ones being colonized, or “civilized” in the colonizer's view. The idea is that by forcing eye contact, one is retraining the “savage” to behave according “civilized” moral standards. Many colonialist thinkers believed that indigenous people would ultimately benefit i they were reeducated according to these: standards. The actual result of this, though, is a setup where authority figures can exert control over what someone can do with their eyes. This means controling where you can look and what you can se, ie. where you can put your attention and what information you can take in. Its a very aggressive power move. On one level it controls your awareness of your surroundings and your abity to respond to them, and on another level it's an attempt to establish control over your body."

disability, society, compassion, invisible problems "ya know, being disabled should not be this difficult or expensive things could be changed so easily but no one seems to care i wasnt listening but i made you this (brave) you are so brave! i dont want that. you realise you wouldnt have to refer to us as brave if... you would help increase our quality of life & make the world more accessible. listen champ, not gonna happen. but i made you this! (inspiration to us all!!)" #art_credit_missing