Basic Fucking Kindness

emotional regulation, socialization, anger "furthermore i truly believe you should eat a meal before making any big choices, confrontations, vents, etc. i promise 100% of the time you will feel better and more balanced with food in your stomach. you should never do anything that will have consequences on anything less than a full stomach. orc logic she's right btw"

relationships, love, socialization "i'd die for you" "i'd kill for you" ok but would you remember my favorite colour? boil enough water for two coffees? would you truly listen? stay a while longer on a bad day? split a fruit in half because it taster better when shared? would you care about the small things? i dont need people to go to war for me, i need them to take pictures of things that remind them of me just to show me in the evening if there needs to be a monster to slay for someone to take care do they truly do it for you or do they just want to appease their own need. part of caring is listening to what the other needs instead of what would feeld good or grand to deliver "i'd catch a grenade for y--" cool. would you do the dishes without needing to be asked though"

society, digital "like, do you guys know that the attention economy thrives on hate? do you understand the most powerful thing you could do to something is to ignore it and not acknowledge it? do you not understand how anything works ever?"

socialization, affection, society "some of y'all think that holding hands and sharing a bed is immediately romantic, and this is why people cannot differentiate between romantic, platonic, and familial forms of love nothing is EVER inherently romantic. the meaning of a gesture is determined by the people involved in it, not some random outsider the meaning of a gesture is determined by the people involved in it"

jobs, society "people today are spoiled to shit [...] you're not mad someone else might make $15/hr, you're mad you're not making $35/hr. and you should be. your enemy isn't the poor bastard finally getting a few more crumbs, it's the billionaire who's been robbing you of a living wage for the past forever, and will keep doing so"

anxiety, socialization, venn diagram 'impostor syndrome vs reality: what i know, what i think others know, what others actually know'

socialization, boundaries "dont blame a clown for acting like a clown. ask yourself why you keep going to the circus."

rest, self compassion, guilt, art "reframing motivation not as an act of will, but a thing that naturally occurs when i am rested, fed, and am taking things at my own slow pace has helped me a lot"

anxiety, stress, impostor syndrome "i had a professor in college who used to start solving every problem with the same dialogue proff: what's the first step to solving any problem? class: dont panic proff: and why is that? class: because we know more than we think we do i think about that a lot tbh. it didnt occur to me until much later that he meant for us to apply that dialogue outside of the classroom to any problem. because we always know more than we think we do. we are all an amalgam of random information that ends up being relevant with surprising frequency"

art, rest "3 easy ways to start drawing again 1- doodle when i was a cashier i would fill up post-it notes with squiggles. like this [example] and then fill in the "background" with pencil or sharpie here are some of my go-to doodles. everyone has their own. get the hand moving! 2-copy drawings, movie stills, paintings, manga panels. anything you like. dont worry about it looking perfect each imperfection and wobbly line gives the copy life. it becomes a new image i like to color them in with no regard for the original. i also recommend doing all this while watching/listening to the junk media of your choice. ("ben quadrineros clearly was named after his podracer instead of the other way around. ben is") 3- draw together a grade school classic. pass a notebook back and forth with a good friend. there's no pressure to make pretty pictures - i just want to make the other person laugh (waiting patiently) you can do this --on an airplane! --waiting for food at a restaurant! --at the dmv!" {art by junkworld}

drugs, digital, rest "learning that addiction is a progressive narrowing of the range of things that make one happy was kinda life changing for me. i apply it to everything not even just addiction i am always checking to ask if i am narrowing my range of happiness or widening it always good to check whether your coping stragety has become something that needs its own coping strategies"

invisible problems, disabilities, mental health "there is no award for never asking for help"