Basic Fucking Kindness

male loneliness crisis, society "before you make that post about "the crisis facing men and boys" or "preventing redpill radicalization" stop and check in: if your proposed solution 1.increased labor of women and girls 2.women and girls enduring more abuse for the benefit of men and boys 3.women and girls suppressing their emotions (fear, anger, resentment, etc,) and limiting their speech 4.blaming populations of women (e.g. trans women, women involved in sex trades, racialized women) for the actions of men and expecting those women to endure punishment for men 5.focusing on mantaining manhood and masculinity while reducing the discomfort men feel about holding this position, framing men's feelings of insecurity as the central issue to be addressed when it comes to violent misogyny if so: your "solution" to behavioral patterns emerging withing patriarchy is more patriarchy instead: try to imagine literally anything else"

anxiety, depression, digital, political "when i was a boy and i would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, "look for the helpers. you will always find people who are helping." to this day, especially in times of "disaster", i remember my mother's words and i am always comforted by realizing that there are still so many helpers - so many caring people in this world"

digital, rest, art "a friend said to me last year, "you can use your time to either make art or argue with a 15 year old edgelord on social media, your choice." and you know what, she is right"

socialization, relationships, boundaries, communication "you're not actually a better friend for not articulating and respecting your own needs, limits and boundaries. your lack of communication and boundaries is not some impressive sacrifice. you're not doing anyone any favors by acting like you're okay with things you arent okay with. you're just building burnout and resentment that will eventually damage the relationship in question. and when you eventually snap and walk away because you silently overburdened yourself to be a "good friend", it wont be the other persons fault highkey, this is how i lost my friends in high school. im being so serious. i know y'all are people pleaser, y'all have precious trauma or whatever to be that way, but im so serious when im telling y'all its time for that character development"

invisible problems, neurodivergency "ADHDers often feel like we "should" be able to do something because *we've done it before* or that our difficulty with focus/productivity isnt a real disability b/c sometimes we can do it just fine. GUYS. LADIES. GENTLETHEMS. THAT IS THE DISABILITY. THE INCONSISTENCY."

healing, trauma, letting go "imagine being bitten by a snake, and instead of focusing on healing from the poison, you chase the snake to understand why it bit you and to prove that you didnt deserve it"

unrealistic age expectations, political, society, discussions "«how would YOU fix the medical system then 😡» im 17 years old like i dont need to be a carpenter to see that your ikea chair that impales everyone that sits on it and then shatters was put together wrong but that doesnt mean i know how to fix it"

chronic illness, body, invisible problems, rest "we need to stop thinking about disability as something that we either "allow" or "dont allow" to get in the way of shit my disability does what it wants. and if it stops me from doing things, i cant help that its got nothing to do with me "allowing" it to do anything"

unscheduled post due to current spambot waves, talking in italian in the chat has changed from disencouraged to automated instantaneous ban. if you ever want to reference an italian localism or otherwise use italian words, please keep this in mind thank you late edit: the automated action has been changed to instant deletion rather than instant ban for the time being

growth, healing, self compassion "the bugs have come to remind you there is no shame in crawling forward. progress is still progress" {art by irasutoya, text by "radically sunny"}

relationships, socialization "conflict avoided is conflict multiplied when we avoid difficult conversations, we trade short term discomfort for long term dysfunction"

politics, activism, community, guilt "remember as you say punch nazis, wwii resistance heroes also smuggled and hid refugees, deleted refugee data, lied to cops, broke the law hid art. made graffitti. smuggled out kids, hid people, preserved knowledge, and kept the truth out of the lies not everyone is built to be a fighter. and thats okay. a war isnt won by the infantry alone. we need support in this trying time as the great beast called fascism rises. dont tolerate intolerance. stay angry. stay together. stay smart."