Post #556

to spot red flags in others — замечать «красные флаги» в других I can spot red flags in others, but I sometimes ignore my own. internal warning signs — внутренние тревожные сигналы I felt internal warning signs when he kept avoiding simple questions. emotional maturity — эмоциональная зрелость Emotional maturity means talking about problems instead of running away. to expose — обнажать, выявлять Conflict often exposes our deepest fears. emotional wounds — эмоциональные раны Her reaction came from old emotional wounds, not from the situation. unconscious defense mechanism — бессознательный защитный механизм Shutting down is his unconscious defense mechanism. to defend — защищать She got defensive instead of listening. to fall back on — прибегать к (привычной реакции) When stressed, he falls back on sarcasm. to shut down — закрываться эмоционально When the conversation gets serious, he shuts down. to lash out — набрасываться, резко нападать He lashed out because he felt insecure. deflecting — уход от сути, перевод фокуса She started deflecting when the conversation got uncomfortable. anxious attachment — тревожная привязанность People with anxious attachment fear being left. escalating — обостряя, усиливая конфликт He kept escalating the argument instead of calming down. avoidant attachment — избегающая привязанность With avoidant attachment, people pull away when things get close. secure attachment — надёжная привязанность Secure attachment helps people communicate openly. to withdraw — отстраняться, уходить в себя He withdraws every time someone sets a boundary. to respond — реагировать, отвечать You don’t have to react immediately — you can respond later. vulnerability — уязвимость Sharing your feelings requires vulnerability. humility — смирение, скромность Humility means admitting you don’t know everything. to tend to — иметь склонность I tend to avoid conflict. to reflect — осмысливать She reflected on her behavior after the fight. to reflect on — размышлять о It’s important to reflect on why you ignored that red flag. empathic effort — усилие понять чувства другого He made real empathic effort to understand her side. a boundary — граница “Please don’t yell at me” is a boundary. to feel rejected — чувствовать себя отвергнутым She felt rejected when he asked for space. to reveal — выявлять, раскрывать Stress can reveal hidden patterns. an issue — проблема, вопрос They discussed the issue calmly. assertiveness — уверенное выражение своих потребностей Assertiveness means saying “I need time” without guilt. to advocate for — отстаивать, выступать за You have to advocate for your own well-being.