Post #5715

I’m unsubscribing from this SUB, sorry gals I can’t. Every. Single. Time. I log onto Reddit the majority of visible posts in this sub are some version of, “Am I allowed to feel emotions about my boyfriend/partner…” -disrespecting my boundaries (over and over again)? -directly reaching out to pornstars? -pressuring me to put his dick in my ass even thought I’ve told him no 20x? -spending more money and time on OF girls than me? -(EDIT: I initially said “forcing himself on me”, and I meant it as in physically initiating make out/sex/intimacy in times a woman is not into it or in which case a woman is saying “no” multiple times and made to feel bad because she ended up not having sex. NOT actually raping a woman. A few commenters utilized my wording as a way of personally attacking me as a rape-victim-blamer which is grotesque and untrue. They’ve even sent me DMs that would make an incel blush. Enjoy my clarification) -being addicted to pornography? -visiting the strip club even thought I told him it makes me uncomfortable? -jacking off to nudes of exes? Like, women, please PLEASE develop some self-worth BEFORE dating. It’s depressing and embarrassing. And then these posts are followed up with some version of, “its all my fault for not sitting him down, holding his hand, and spelling out to him my specific boundary of not wanting him to do the incredibly disrespectful thing that any partner who actually cared and respected you would never do in the first place.” Some of ya’ll really just settle for men who make decisions that blatantly disrespect you as a woman AND AS A PARTNER. Why? Financial Security? You want a father for your current/future kids? You’re afraid of being alone? I am genuinely asking.. Make it make sense. I don’t know who needs to hear this, but: Being “okay” with porn/strip clubs/anal IS NOT THE DEFAULT for every relationship. And it is a man’s responsibility to discuss these boundaries with you, not to make assumptions that selfishly serve him and disrespect you. I love all of the love and support and funny, insightful, and educational posts in this sub. But I find this pattern of regular posts really really depressing. I feel horrible for you guys, but I just can’t anymore. EDIT: might I add, young women who read this sub- this level of complacency in shit men that you see in these posts is NOT normal and does not need to be! You deserve better! Don’t accept all these posts as “expectable”, please please. EDIT 2: The women on here telling me I’m victim-blaming rape victims are delusional and worse than unsolicited dick pics. Nice straw man argument. EDIT 3: Some commenters have pointed out that it’s up to BOTH/ALL parties to communicate boundaries- I agree! I meant this more in the example of -your partner shouldn’t just try to slide their dick into your asshole during sex and expect it to be acceptable without a discussion beforehand. (We see this particular example ALLLLLLL the time in this sub.) For a guy to say “oh I didn’t know”, NO- you didn’t ask. It’s not an example of mere ignorance, it’s an example of disrespect. But it goes both ways. EDIT 4: I am NOT talking about women seeking help in abusive relationships. I’m talking about women complaining about their partners being blatantly disrespectful. Often going on about how “amazing” he is other than this one incredibly disrespectful thing he did…a few times. This post is not about women posting about their ABUSE. This is about women putting up with blatant disrespect only. A disrespectful man is not always abusive, I’m referring to the former- not the latter. FINAL EDIT: thanks for all the DMs (I don’t respond to DMs but I read them!) and comments taking the time to engage and understand where I’m coming from 💙. www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/y9z560/im_unsubscribing_from_this_sub_sorry_gals/source