Post #6663

Every woman I’ve told about my SA considers it rape but every man says it’s not rape My ex bf raped me and doesn’t think he’s a rapist. I’d told him multiple times very clearly that I “never” wanted to try anal and he still put it in one night. He also raped me when I was passed out on weed but I don’t remember much. The next man I slept with also raped me and doesn’t think he’s a rapist. I was crying and telling him to stop and he still doesn’t think he did anything wrong. Told 2 of my male friends what happened and they think it counts as SA but not rape. 1 of them is still friends with my ex. My 3 female friends believe me and had to explain to me it’s rape (I was in denial for a year). You could ask 10 ppl if they think rape is wrong, 10 would say yes ofc. But then describe the exact definition of rape and only 5 would say it’s rape. You could ask 10 ppl if they would still be friends with a rapist and most would say no. But then in reality that’s not true. There’s so much dissonance about rape it’s insane. I thought the ppl around me were smart, college educated ppl and they still don’t understand. I’m feeling so hopeless. My theory is all these men realize deep down what they did is bad but refuse to accept it. Refuse to accept their friend is a rapist. Denial is a hell of a state of mind. www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1dsc0qr/every_woman_ive_told_about_my_sa_considers_it/source