Basic Fucking Kindness

self compassion, socialization, trauma "not to get too deep on main but did anyone else have such deeply rooted issues with their self worth for so long that they thought as a kid/teen that their only redeeming feature was being “low maintenance” and now as an adult you give yourself guilt pangs asking for any more than the barest minimum in virtually any relationship because asking for things might negate your only good quality which is just “doesn’t ask for things” "

socialization, love, relationships "if you love a flower, dont pick it up. because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love. so if you love a flower, let it be. love is not about possession. love is about appreciation"

society "look at rosaline, the rose that grew out of concrete"

self compassion, socialization "when you're not used to being confident, confidence feels like arrogance when you're used to being passive, assertiveness feels like aggression when you're not used to getting your needs met, prioritizing yourself feels selfish your control zone is not a good benchmark"

self compassion, impostor syndrome "whatever you think you cant do, just know that there is someone who is confidently doing it wrong right now"

self compassion "this is your daily reminder to not be ashamed of making your life easy for yourself"

society, socialization "monogamy culture really has us out here saving our vulnerability, love, hugs, and cuddles for imaginary romantic partners when out friends are right there."

kindness, socialization, self compassion "nothing i've read has changed me more than "you do people a favor by accepting their help" "

relationships, socialization, society "love triangles cant exist without at least 1 lgbt person. cishets just dont know how shapes work [...] most of the characters that people call a love triangle is really just a love corner. and the woman is usually backed into it"

trauma, healing, self compassion "maybe you're not healing because you're trying to be who were before the trauma, that person doesnt exist anymore"

Basic Fucking Kindness pinned «open collective "challenge": say something nice about someone else in the comments (be mindful of triggering stuff), or, if you feel extra daring, try to say something nice about yourself this message will never be "too old to reply to", you are invited…»

socialization, abuse "not all toxic people are cruel and uncaring. some of them love us dearly."