scribbled diary

refuse to let negativity turn you into a place of hate; choose to radiate light, kindness, and unconditional love.

Stop chasing the idea of a ‘perfect love’, instead - chase the self-love, chase the ability to become the best version of yourself. Chase your dreams, your hopes and wishes. Chase everything that will stay when love leaves, and hold on to it, for you must when it does.

Still healing from things I don't speak about anymore. I just take it day by day.

You’ve been in situations where you thought you’d never make it out, but you did. You’ve lived through it. You’ve learned from it. You’ve survived. So whatever it is that you’re currently going through right now, you’ll get through that too. Believe it! You are resilient!

If the love faded, so will the pain.

Sometimes things go wrong. People leave. Hearts break. Things that you were afraid of happening, happens. Experiences that are out of your control hit you like a wall, and there's nothing you can do other than accept this phase of life. In those moments, it's hard to believe that life will be okay again. Because how can it be when everything is going wrong. But things have to get better, don't they? Bad stuff happens in order for us to appreciate the good, and often things fall apart so that the pieces can join together in a new way - the way that they were supposed to. Sometimes things go wrong because the patterns that existed were too toxic for us to continue. And because we refuse to step out of our comfort zone and accept what's meant for us - the natural laws, higher reality, god; they make that change for us. Sometimes things go wrong because there's no other way for them to go and challenges are essential for growth. And sometimes things go wrong because we're trying so hard to push pieces that don't fit together, in order for life to make sense. But those pieces need to fall apart. We need to fall apart. Life needs to fall apart - so that it can come together the way it was meant to.

some of y'all are dating just to escape loneliness and not because you fell in love.. and that's why it never works out.

Unfortunately life doesn't wait for you to be okay. Get up and keep going

At some point you just got to tell people, "I love you, but I’m no longer interested in the level of life that you have to offer me, and because of that I have to remove myself, I'm not judging you and I’m not even asking you to change"

you do NOT have to feel ashamed for trusting someone, for wanting to see the good in them & giving them the benefit of the doubt. idc.. you had love in ur heart & thats it

That's why the twenties are formative. You do things, fuck up, deal with the consequences. That's what forms you. It's also how you learn and how you grow and how you change. You aren't meant to go through your twenties (or indeed through any of your life) with it all figured out. Get out there, do stuff, choose the wrong things, fuck up, fix what you can, don't hurt people if you can avoid it, be kind, and do better and more interestingly next time.

I don't need to know your favorite color on the first date. We will get there eventually. Tell me more about who you hope to be one day. Tell me more about how you came to be this way. Tell me all the deep and dark. I want to know it all from the start.